I was a bit behind so sorry about a double posting today.....
Writing about Conner earlier made me realize how little time we actually have with our children and that counts double right now because Maddie is 15 today. Fifteen years goes by in the blink of an eye. I will never forget the day this beautiful little creature came into my life. She was in a big hurry....she didn't even let me wait for the doctor to walk in the room, she came into the world with bright eyes and an extreme amount of determination.
She is my fighter. She doesn't take no for an answer (even when she should). She is a risk taker! She knows how to live life. I have learned more from her than I think she has from me. She is funny, sweet, talented, smart, and beautiful. She is the complete package. My most current wish for her is to learn how to deal with other girls. Drama, unfortunately, is something she has to learn to deal with, something I can only offer advice on, but it will always be there. Girls are, excuse the language, bitches. It's sad that we don't learn until we are in our 20s how to treat each other, how to weed out the bad ones, and how to treasure the good ones. I can only hope that she goes through these difficult years without too many scars.
I am blessed to have this little one in my life! I love our relationship, even when it is difficult.
Happy Birthday to my amazing daughter, you are magnificent!
Thanks,
from Heather
Monday, June 25, 2012
Graduation
18 years ago, my husband handed me our son. He was beautiful, helpless, and full of potential. I had expectations, dreams, and a bit of fear as I thought about his future and the life he was just starting. I watched him grow, crawl, walk, talk, and discover new things on a daily basis...I was proud.
This amazing little boy taught me what love is. My heart swelled.
Over the years, there have been arguements, tears, and extreme frustration, he didn't realize his potential but I did, and still do.
We have been very lucky to have great teachers help him on his path, teachers that have talked with me at great lengths and helped me understand the difference between a teenager today and what life was like when I was a teenager. They coached him, prodded him, helped him, and most importantly, believed in him. They gave him the power to make choices and helped me deal with those choices, especially when I thought they were the wrong ones. As I look back, Conner didn't make bad choices, he made choices that taught him lessons and isn't that the purpose of those teenage years? To make mistakes and learn from them?
Now, he is a high school graduate and I look at him today as I did some 18 years ago, he is beautiful, not so helpless and still full of potential. I still have expectations, dreams, and a lot more fear as he is, now, ready to take his first steps into his "real" life. He will leave home and I can only hope that I have armed him with the tools necessary to navigate in the scary world of adulthood. I know he will make some more mistakes but, he will be fine. He will accomplish great things and have wonderful journies, I'm just sad that I will not be there for all the new "firsts" but I am still very, very proud.
Conner, go experience life, have fun, be safe, love with your whole heart, but call your mother every once in a while!
Thanks,
from Heather
This amazing little boy taught me what love is. My heart swelled.
Over the years, there have been arguements, tears, and extreme frustration, he didn't realize his potential but I did, and still do.
We have been very lucky to have great teachers help him on his path, teachers that have talked with me at great lengths and helped me understand the difference between a teenager today and what life was like when I was a teenager. They coached him, prodded him, helped him, and most importantly, believed in him. They gave him the power to make choices and helped me deal with those choices, especially when I thought they were the wrong ones. As I look back, Conner didn't make bad choices, he made choices that taught him lessons and isn't that the purpose of those teenage years? To make mistakes and learn from them?
Now, he is a high school graduate and I look at him today as I did some 18 years ago, he is beautiful, not so helpless and still full of potential. I still have expectations, dreams, and a lot more fear as he is, now, ready to take his first steps into his "real" life. He will leave home and I can only hope that I have armed him with the tools necessary to navigate in the scary world of adulthood. I know he will make some more mistakes but, he will be fine. He will accomplish great things and have wonderful journies, I'm just sad that I will not be there for all the new "firsts" but I am still very, very proud.
Conner, go experience life, have fun, be safe, love with your whole heart, but call your mother every once in a while!
Thanks,
from Heather
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Children
My kids drive me crazy, they make me angry, they make me cry, they make me want to bash my head against a wall but, they also make me laugh daily, they entertain me constantly, they love me unconditionally (even when they hate me), and they make me feel accomplished.
I wish I had written down all the things my children have said and done over the years that have been note worthy because I know it would be a great read one day, perhaps excerpts in a slide show for a wedding, I have some things stored in memory, mostly because I've told the story over and over again or because it was so damn funny I'll never forget it but, I really do wish I had kept better track of stuff like that.....I have a friend that does this, she writes down all the things her very busy 3 year old son says and does and while I know he keeps her on her toes and some days she just looks at him and wonders if he will ever calm down he is a great kid. They are an amazing family and they are moving soon, I will miss them.
I thought I would share some of the things she tells her son, just in case you need a laugh today...and if you are a mother, I guarantee you will relate to some of these things.
Stop putting your noodles up your nose.
We do not put our heads in the toilet!
Don't poke yourself in the eye.
The table is not for jumping!
Are you supposed to pee on the toilet lid?
You do not put your head in the toilet water!
Quit scratching your butt cheek with your tooth brush.
Please don't put your butt thermometer in your ear.
Don't touch the dog's eyeball.
Quit playing with the gas tank.
Get out of the sink!
Your sister is not a chair or trampoline.
We pour our drinks in cups not on the floor.
Quit hanging from the door knobs.
Where are your clothes?!
Stop licking things!
We use our hands to hold spoons, not our toes.
Take mommy's bra off right now.
Get your head out of the dryer please.
Puzzle boxes are not to pee in, they are to put puzzles in.
Please put the dish rack back in the dish washer.
Just because you have a coat and your sisters shoes on does not make it ok to go outside without parents or pants.
You don't feed the dog the WHOLE bag of Beggin' Strips, only one.
Don't stab people with pretzels.
Stop licking people!
When I said go get on the toilet, I didn't mean stand on it and then pee.
Don't pull your pants down until you are in the bathroom!
Keep your hands, feet, and man junk to yourself!!!
We use the sink to rinse our tooth brush not the toilet.
Don't put rocks in the tail pipe!
Just because the dog licks you to kiss you does not mean you lick him back.
Don't pick up and play with the mice you find outside, they are not pets.
You can not put your hand over the baby's mouth to make him quiet!!!!
Never yell "we're going down! we're going down" while you are on an airplane sitting next to a girl who has never flown before...
The airport is not a good place to play pretend, please quit barking at people and get up and walk like a big boy.
DO NOT JUMP OFF THE STEPS when you just fell down them last night!
Just because you peed outside once doesn't mean you can pee outside anywhere you want.
Thanks,
from Heather
I wish I had written down all the things my children have said and done over the years that have been note worthy because I know it would be a great read one day, perhaps excerpts in a slide show for a wedding, I have some things stored in memory, mostly because I've told the story over and over again or because it was so damn funny I'll never forget it but, I really do wish I had kept better track of stuff like that.....I have a friend that does this, she writes down all the things her very busy 3 year old son says and does and while I know he keeps her on her toes and some days she just looks at him and wonders if he will ever calm down he is a great kid. They are an amazing family and they are moving soon, I will miss them.
I thought I would share some of the things she tells her son, just in case you need a laugh today...and if you are a mother, I guarantee you will relate to some of these things.
Stop putting your noodles up your nose.
We do not put our heads in the toilet!
Don't poke yourself in the eye.
The table is not for jumping!
Are you supposed to pee on the toilet lid?
You do not put your head in the toilet water!
Quit scratching your butt cheek with your tooth brush.
Please don't put your butt thermometer in your ear.
Don't touch the dog's eyeball.
Quit playing with the gas tank.
Get out of the sink!
Your sister is not a chair or trampoline.
We pour our drinks in cups not on the floor.
Quit hanging from the door knobs.
Where are your clothes?!
Stop licking things!
We use our hands to hold spoons, not our toes.
Take mommy's bra off right now.
Get your head out of the dryer please.
Puzzle boxes are not to pee in, they are to put puzzles in.
Please put the dish rack back in the dish washer.
Just because you have a coat and your sisters shoes on does not make it ok to go outside without parents or pants.
You don't feed the dog the WHOLE bag of Beggin' Strips, only one.
Don't stab people with pretzels.
Stop licking people!
When I said go get on the toilet, I didn't mean stand on it and then pee.
Don't pull your pants down until you are in the bathroom!
Keep your hands, feet, and man junk to yourself!!!
We use the sink to rinse our tooth brush not the toilet.
Don't put rocks in the tail pipe!
Just because the dog licks you to kiss you does not mean you lick him back.
Don't pick up and play with the mice you find outside, they are not pets.
You can not put your hand over the baby's mouth to make him quiet!!!!
Never yell "we're going down! we're going down" while you are on an airplane sitting next to a girl who has never flown before...
The airport is not a good place to play pretend, please quit barking at people and get up and walk like a big boy.
DO NOT JUMP OFF THE STEPS when you just fell down them last night!
Just because you peed outside once doesn't mean you can pee outside anywhere you want.
Thanks,
from Heather
Monday, June 4, 2012
Whew!!!
I am sitting here not so patiently waiting for my final grade for my Economics class and doing a bit of reflecting. The last 2 years has been a bit stressful, being a full time mom, wife, student hasn't been easy and for those that add full time employee, I tip my hat to you because you are a better person than I. But I did it. I know I'm not done, I still have a few more years to finish but, I'm done with this leg of the journey.
The point of this post is to thank those of you that have helped me along the way, whether it be emotionally, mentally, or physically, I appreciate you with all my heart.
Thanks,
from Heather
The point of this post is to thank those of you that have helped me along the way, whether it be emotionally, mentally, or physically, I appreciate you with all my heart.
Thanks,
from Heather
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